4 Nights · May 26–29 · 7 PM CT

Find Your Person Challenge.

A free 4-night virtual event for Christian singles ready to stop spinning — and start meeting their person with clarity, confidence, and a plan.

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20,000+ expected 100% free Live on Zoom

Your 4-Night Lineup

An A-list of voices you'd pay to see anywhere else.

Four speakers. Four nights. Zero filler.

Tue · May 26 · Night 1

Dr. Henry Cloud

NYT Bestselling Author · Boundaries · 20M+ books sold

Topic The Problem with Christian Dating — and what actually works instead.

Wed · May 27 · Night 2

Kait & JJ Tomlin

Your Hosts · Founders of Heart of Dating

Topic From Ambiguous to Intentional — how to date with a plan that actually leads somewhere.

Thu · May 28 · Night 3

Annie F. Downs

NYT Bestseller · Podcaster · 1M+ books · That Sounds Fun

Topic When Your Love Story Isn't Going How You Planned — finding purpose and hope in the wait.

Fri · May 29 · Night 4

Kait & JJ Tomlin

Your Hosts · Founders of Heart of Dating

Topic How to Build a Relationship That Lasts — not just butterflies, a biblical foundation.

Who This Is For

If any of this sounds like you…

You're tired of generic advice

Another "just put yourself out there" podcast isn't going to move the needle. You need real frameworks.

You keep repeating the same patterns

Same type of person, same ending. You're ready to see WHY — and do something about it.

You're 25 or 55

Half our last gathering was 40+. Whether you're starting or starting over — this is built for both.

You want to date with purpose

Not just spin. Not just wait. Actually move toward the marriage you're praying for.

You want to meet other Christians

There are 20,000+ singles showing up. You're not alone in this — and for once you can feel it.

You're ready for a real plan

4 nights of teaching. Zero fluff. Leave with clarity on your next 30, 60, 90 days.

BONUS · After the Challenge

Plus — a free in-person speed dating event after.

We've partnered with our friends at Ark Dating to host a FREE in-person speed dating event for every challenge attendee. You'll leave the challenge with a plan — and a chance to put it into practice immediately. No other event comes close.

Meet Your Hosts

We've been exactly where you are.

Kait Tomlin is the author of Thank You For Rejecting Me, host of the Heart of Dating podcast (100M+ downloads), and has helped thousands of Christian singles find clarity and love on purpose.

JJ Tomlin is Kait's husband, co-host of HOD, and the business mind behind the ministry. Together they've built the largest Christian dating community in the world — because they lived the journey first.

This challenge is the thing we wish someone had handed us 10 years ago.

Quick Questions

Everything you're probably wondering.

Is this really free?

Yes. 100% free. No credit card, no hidden fees. We built this as a ministry to the Christian dating community.

What if I miss a night?

We recommend catching all 4 live if you can — it's where the magic happens. Can't make a night? We'll have a VIP upgrade option that unlocks 30-day replays.

Do I have to be on camera?

Nope. Cameras optional. You can participate through chat only if you'd rather not show your face.

Will you pitch something?

Yes — on Night 3 we'll share School of Dating for anyone who wants to go deeper after the challenge. Zero pressure. The 4 nights stand alone.

I'm 40+ — is this for me?

Absolutely. Half our last group was 40+. Whether you're starting or starting over, you won't be the only one in the room.